{"id":47024,"date":"2011-05-29T14:37:44","date_gmt":"2011-05-29T13:37:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.visit-ulcinj.com\/blog\/?p=47024"},"modified":"2013-03-24T08:00:37","modified_gmt":"2013-03-24T07:00:37","slug":"dasma-dhe-tradita-ulqinake","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visit-ulcinj.com\/blog\/2011\/05\/29\/dasma-dhe-tradita-ulqinake\/","title":{"rendered":"Dasma dhe tradita Ulqinake"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>Dasma, ky event kaq i hersh\u00ebm i bashkimit t\u00eb dy njer\u00ebzve p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar familje, \u00ebsht\u00eb pasuruar gjat\u00eb shekujve me lloj-lloj rritesh. Por e kaluara gjithmon\u00eb t\u00ebrheq… Pas sugjerimeve t\u00eb lexuesve tan\u00eb nga treva t\u00eb ndryshme t\u00eb Ulqinit, menduam t\u00eb nisim nj\u00eb \u00e7ik\u00ebl t\u00eb tradit\u00ebs s\u00eb hershme dhe ritualeve mbi proceset m\u00eb t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme jet\u00ebsore, si\u00e7 jan\u00eb dasma. Ciklin vendos\u00ebm ta nisim nga Ulqini, p\u00ebr respekt t\u00eb lexuesve tan\u00eb atje, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt kan\u00eb qen\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00ebt q\u00eb na kan\u00eb dh\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb ide t\u00eb till\u00eb.Ne do fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb zbulojm\u00eb nga pak tradit\u00ebn e harruar t\u00eb dasm\u00ebs ulqinake…Si keni edhe ju sugjerime vazhdoni t\u00eb na shkruani q\u00eb ta pasurojm thesarin e kultur\u00ebs s\u00eb Ulqinit.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Fejesa n\u00eb koh\u00ebn ton\u00eb ka pas qen\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me shkusi, pra prej njohjeve mes fiseve, familjeve e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. Gjithnj\u00eb kan\u00eb preferuar t\u00eb zgjidhin nj\u00eb vajz\u00eb apo nj\u00eb djal\u00eb nga familje t\u00eb mira, t\u00eb ndershme, dhe sipas shtresave, gjithsecili nga prind\u00ebrit \u00ebsht\u00eb munduar t\u00eb zgjedh\u00eb nj\u00eb bashk\u00ebshort p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn e tij nga rangu i kllas\u00ebs q\u00eb i p\u00ebrkiste. Kjo ka qen\u00eb e p\u00ebrgjithshmja p\u00ebr t’u lidhur nj\u00eb \u00e7ift n\u00eb martes\u00eb. Jan\u00eb fenomene shum\u00eb t\u00eb rralla ato martesa q\u00eb jan\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb me njohje vet\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7iftit, por edhe n\u00eb ato raste shkuesit kan\u00eb qen\u00eb nd\u00ebrhyr\u00ebs p\u00ebr njohjen. Ka pasur edhe ekspert\u00eb q\u00eb merreshin me fejesat. K\u00ebta shkues kishin njohuri p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha familjet e qytetit dhe mundoheshin t\u00eb kryenin lidhje sa m\u00eb t\u00eb q\u00ebndrueshme dhe t\u00eb p\u00ebrshtatshme. K\u00ebta njer\u00ebz shkonin her\u00eb te nj\u00ebra familje e her\u00eb te tjera, duke biseduar p\u00ebr bashkimin e t\u00eb rinjve, derisa bihej dakord. Dajat dhe xhaxhallar\u00ebt, me rekomandimet e tyre, gjithmon\u00eb kishin ndikim n\u00eb dasmat e nip\u00ebrve.
\nFejesa s’ka pas rite t\u00eb dukshme. M\u00eb tep\u00ebr k\u00ebto rite b\u00ebheshin mes familjes dhe t\u00eb njohurve. Fillimisht b\u00ebhej \u201ck\u00ebputja e fjal\u00ebs\u201d, q\u00eb n\u00ebnkupton momentin kur nj\u00eb axh\u00eb \u00a0apo daj\u00eb i dh\u00ebndrit shkon te familja e nuses s\u00eb ardhshme dhe i k\u00ebrkon dor\u00ebn vajz\u00ebs. Ky person ishte me autoritet t\u00eb padiskutuesh\u00ebm. Ky person shkonte i vet\u00ebm n\u00eb der\u00ebn e vajz\u00ebs dhe aty i jepej fjala nga babai i saj, v\u00ebllez\u00ebrit e axh\u00ebs \u00a0apo dajat. Kjo ishte edhe faza e par\u00eb e fejes\u00ebs. M\u00eb tej vinte pirja e kafeve. M\u00eb par\u00eb kjo b\u00ebhej m\u00eb pak njer\u00ebz. Krushqit e dh\u00ebndrit, rreth 7-8 veta, shkonin e pinin kafe. Kjo vizit\u00eb kthehej n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjtin num\u00ebr krushqish nga ana e familjes s\u00eb vajz\u00ebs. Pasi mbaronte edhe pirja e nd\u00ebrsjell\u00eb e kafeve, e gjitha kjo quhej nj\u00eb far\u00eb d\u00ebshmie dhe aprovimi p\u00ebr fejes\u00ebn dhe martes\u00ebn e ardhshme. Ceremonia ishte e thjesht\u00eb, me disa llokume, pirje kafesh dhe disa dhurata t\u00eb thjeshta reciproke. M\u00eb von\u00eb d\u00ebrgoheshin edhe shenjat, nj\u00eb rreth, unaz\u00eb floriri. Rrethi \u00e7ohej nga t\u00eb rinjt\u00eb n\u00eb t\u00eb dyja familjet, por pa u par\u00eb nj\u00ebri me tjetrin \u00e7ifti i ardhsh\u00ebm. Edhe k\u00ebtu kemi dhurata t\u00eb thjeshta q\u00eb u jepeshin atyre q\u00eb \u00e7onin shenj\u00ebn. Kjo fejes\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb shoq\u00ebruar edhe me pranin\u00eb e nj\u00eb kleriku katolik ose nj\u00eb hoxhe, n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb fes\u00eb, i cili b\u00ebnte lutje dhe bekimin p\u00ebr t\u00eb vajtur bashkimi i t\u00eb rinjve n\u00eb rrug\u00eb t\u00eb mbar\u00eb. Burri shpesh nuk e kishte par\u00eb ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb para dasm\u00ebs nusen e tij<\/p>\n

Paja e nuses<\/strong>
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\nPas fejes\u00ebs nis faza e bashkimit t\u00eb \u00e7iftit n\u00eb martes\u00eb. K\u00ebtu ka pasur zakone t\u00eb tjera q\u00eb jan\u00eb zbatuar n\u00eb var\u00ebsi t\u00eb sfer\u00ebs q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit i takonin. K\u00ebto adete ndryshonin mes t\u00eb varf\u00ebrve e t\u00eb pasurve apo mes fshatit e qytetit. Po k\u00ebshtu, t\u00eb ndryshme nga k\u00ebta dy t\u00eb par\u00ebt i kan\u00eb pasur zakonet familjet e mesme. Ata q\u00eb ishin t\u00eb pasur jan\u00eb marr\u00eb me p\u00ebrgatitjen e \u201cdh\u00ebntis\u00eb\u201d s\u00eb dh\u00ebndrit dhe me p\u00ebrgatitjen e paj\u00ebs s\u00eb nuses.Me nj\u00eb gjergjef t\u00eb vog\u00ebl dor\u00eb, vajzat q\u00eb nga koha e fejes\u00ebs, por edhe vite para saj, jan\u00eb marr\u00eb me p\u00ebrgatitjen e paj\u00ebs s\u00eb tyre, duke q\u00ebndisur sa m\u00eb shum\u00eb. At\u00ebher\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00ebndisej nga dora e nuses. Me vite t\u00eb t\u00ebra vajzat punonin p\u00ebr pajat, madje ka pasur edhe raste plot q\u00eb jan\u00eb kthyer edhe n\u00eb k\u00ebng\u00eb popullore kur k\u00ebto nuse jan\u00eb q\u00ebruar nga puna e gjat\u00eb dhe lodhshme me pajat e tyre. P\u00ebrgatisnin dhom\u00ebn e gjumit, q\u00ebndisnin t\u00eb gjitha rrobat e veta, t\u00eb brendshme e t\u00eb jashtme etj\u201d. Babai i vajz\u00ebs interesohej gjithashtu q\u00eb t’i blinte bij\u00ebs gj\u00ebra t\u00eb kushtueshme. \u201cK\u00ebtu n\u00eb viset e Ulqinit ka qen\u00eb karakteristike p\u00ebr familjet e m\u00ebdha blerja e gj\u00ebrave shum\u00eb t\u00eb kushtueshme nga babai p\u00ebr nusen e re,rrob\u00ebs komb\u00ebtare i shtohej nj\u00eb lloj veshjeje q\u00eb vihej n\u00eb kok\u00eb q\u00eb quhej hilal\u00ebk. Ajo ishte shum\u00eb e kushtueshme dhe kishte 100 napoleona ari t\u00eb varura rrotull. Pastaj, p\u00ebrmbi rrobat komb\u00ebtare, sipas pasuris\u00eb s\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, jan\u00eb varur ato q\u00eb quhen dupje, vargje me monedha ari, t\u00eb cilat shkonin deri n\u00eb 3 breza. K\u00ebto quheshin dupje, pasi ishin zakonisht monedha ari, dukate t\u00eb Venedikut\u201d. Interesimi kalonte m\u00eb pas te k\u00ebpuc\u00ebt e nuses q\u00eb t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb stolisura e t\u00eb q\u00ebndisura. N\u00eb pazar t\u00eb Ulqinit, mjeshtra e rrobaqep\u00ebs kishin punishtet e tyre dhe merreshin me porosi enkas p\u00ebr k\u00ebto raste.
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\u201cDh\u00ebntia\u201d, p\u00ebrfshinte pjes\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr t\u00eb paj\u00ebs, pasi pas rrobave komb\u00ebtare, kan\u00eb qen\u00eb ato t\u00eb stilit modern evropian. Ka pasur, ve\u00e7 rrobave t\u00eb dasm\u00ebs dhe fustane t\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme apo k\u00ebpuc\u00eb e breza, byzylyk\u00eb, sahate ari, aromatizues.Familjet ulqinake tregojn n\u00eb lidhje me k\u00ebt\u00eb se \u201cbabai i nuses r\u00ebndohet shum\u00eb, pasi babai i nuses \u00e7on shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e burrit sesa sjell burri\u201d. Ky \u00ebsht\u00eb dhe ndryshimi mes fshatit dhe qytetit.<\/p>\n

Zakonisht, muaji i preferuar p\u00ebr dasm\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb shtatori, pra, stina e vjesht\u00ebs. P\u00ebrve\u00e7 koh\u00ebs s\u00eb mir\u00eb, ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb edhe simbolikisht rritja e prodhimtaris\u00eb gjat\u00eb vjesht\u00ebs. Pra, kjo b\u00ebhet q\u00eb edhe \u00e7ifti t\u00eb ket\u00eb pjellori t\u00eb mir\u00eb.
\nVet\u00ebm n\u00eb ndonj\u00eb rast t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonsh\u00ebm mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhet nj\u00eb dasm\u00eb jasht\u00eb shtator-tetorit, kur lihej data e dasm\u00ebs.
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Sot, kur vjen nusja n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi, njer\u00ebzit i bien borive t\u00eb makinave, n\u00eb at\u00eb koh\u00eb p\u00ebrmbi kuaj krismat nuk kishin t\u00eb sosur. Nusja ulej n\u00eb fillim n\u00eb gjerdek, nj\u00eb qoshe e ndar\u00eb e dhom\u00ebs ku q\u00ebndronte pa fjal\u00eb, nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb vinin e shikonin, duke admiruar bukurin\u00eb e saj, q\u00eb nga t\u00eb af\u00ebrm, komshinj e k\u00ebshtu me radh\u00eb. N\u00eb krah t\u00eb nuses q\u00ebndron nj\u00eb i af\u00ebrm i saj dhe daja ose axha kurse n\u00eb krah tjeter q\u00ebndron v\u00ebllaj.<\/p>\n

T\u00eb m\u00ebrkur\u00ebn d\u00ebrgojn\u00eb dhuratat te nusja dhe pihet kafja,kurse dit\u00ebn tjet\u00ebr e marrin dh\u00ebntin. T\u00eb premten p\u00ebrgatitet nusja dhe e b\u00ebn\u00eb nat\u00ebn e varzave, dhe t\u00eb shtun\u00ebn b\u00ebhet dasma n\u00eb sht\u00ebpin\u00eb e saj, nd\u00ebrsa te burri t\u00eb diel\u00ebn nis festa.<\/p>\n

Shikoni gjithashtu Fotografijat nga:<\/strong><\/p>\n

1.Vesha komb\u00ebtare Ulqinake – Ismet Karamanaga<\/strong><\/a> Facebook<\/strong><\/p>\n

2.<\/a>Veshja komb\u00ebtare Ulqinake – Vjollca Dibra<\/a><\/strong> Facebook<\/strong>
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